The sorority side of things.

Most of my favorite college memories (aside from meeting my husband) involved Kappa Delta, the sorority I joined. There were strict rules on how to act when in public, most I think everyone could benefit from. Some example of the rules we had are: no wet hair in public, no pajama pants in public, etc. The vast majormakeupity of these rules stemmed from respect – respect for yourself and for others. To this day, I try to have a little make up on when I leave the house. It’s truly not vanity. It’s a way of telling others they’re worth making an effort for.

The town I live in has a farmer’s market each Saturday morning. As it’s outside, it’s clearly a casual affair. However, I’ve made a more conscious effort at being pulled together while still casual. I wore slingback flats, a soft, black fitted t-shirt that said, “Momma” and a gray and white striped skirt. This skirt is cotton and in no way, shape or form a formal skirt. Still, it was amazing how much more compete I looked (and felt) in this outfit instead of a t-shirt and shorts. In fact, I could not tell you the number of compliments I received that day. Several women asked where the skirt was from and mentioned missing women dressing up, even on a Saturday.

Now, I work outside of the home and many Saturdays I would love nothing more than lying on the couch in my jammies. However, when I leave the house, a skirt, for me, takes the same amount of time as pajama pants, something I really wish people would only wear inside the house…

Here’s to expanding the definition of “etiquette.”


6 thoughts on “The sorority side of things.

    1. Thank you so much! I agree. One of the reasons I didn’t start for so long is I was afraid I’d run out of things to talk about. I don’t think that will happen! 🙂

  1. Love your site. I really appreciate your blog on showing respect for yourself and others. If you take questions, I have a quick one? My wife and I will be attending an Aretha Franklin concert next month and we can’t agree on how to dress. I suggested that we dress up. It’s Aretha Franklin, not the Rolling Stones. I suggested wearing a sport coat and slacks. It’s also our anniversary. My wife thinks we’ll stand out and should dress closer to the rest of the crowd. We both would truly appreciate outside advice and would not be offended however you decide. Thanks in advance.

    1. It’s always a good idea to show a little R.E.S.P.E.C.T. Had to throw that in there. In all honesty, dressing up is better than dressing down, particularly if you won’t be outside and don’t have to worry about weather. There are plenty of dressier casual options, such as a skirt or sundress, that are still comfortable (and would make your anniversary that much more special). I don’t worry too much about what others wear. Otherwise, I’d have to wear pajama pants to Walmart, something I never plan to do. That being said, I understand your wife’s desire to not stand out like a sore thumb. Given the performer, I think you’ll find several others who share your desire to dress up a bit.

  2. This is a great thought. I know when I dress more pulled together, the thing I never regret is how it looks in pictures. I like to look back in pictures and feel good about myself, long after I even remember what we were doing. If I’m wearing less pulled together clothes, I don’t enjoy the pictures as much, no matter what the event was. And you’re so right–a skirt really is just as easy, sometimes easier, than shorts. At work I often oft for dresses or skirts and find I’m much more comfortable than I am dressing casual for “casual Friday.” At our office, casual Friday still looks completely pulled togther with shoes and jewelry, even if we wear dress jeans (dark wash with a dressier or trouser cut) that day.

    1. Thank you for reading! I completely agree. I actually wear dresses five days a week, giving up traditional casual Friday dress. I’m so glad you enjoyed it!

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