How about a little business etiquette to start off the business week? You should always wear your name tag on your right side. This is because when you shake someone’s hand, the eye is naturally drawn up the arm towards that location. It makes it easier for someone to see your name. Also, ladies and gentlemen alike, a simple firm handshake is appropriate in the USA, regardless of whether the handshake is performed by mixed company. In some countries, the greetings definitely vary, but a weak handshake is not impressive or appropriate. Neither is one that attempts to squeeze the life out of someone via their extremity. (My picture is a mirror image, by the way). Please let me know of any questions you may have!
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I know the picture doesn’t go along with the title, as the book is a guide for bridesmaids, but in all honesty, they actually go quite hand-in-hand. I received this book from my mother-in-law as encouragement for this blog. Overall, I really enjoyed the book. There were a couple of modern twists mentioned, though, I wish would fall by the wayside, particularly regarding money.
For a bridesmaid, there will be a lot of costs involved with being in a wedding. If you’re unable to incur these expenses, you should politely decline far enough away from the wedding the bride is able to find a replacement. The costs range from a wedding gift (no, not required, but it is more than polite to get one for the bride and groom) to travel expenses, which can add up quickly if you don’t live in the same town as the bride. However, anything required by the bride beyond travel is on the bride, regardless of she’s actually the one writing the check. In short, the dress, required shoes, any required hair-do is all footed by the bride. This is where I get a little old-timey.
I just believe people should have a wedding they can afford and not expect others to pay for their wedding for them. Traditionally, this is what occurred. However, in keeping with the trend of placing more emphasis on the wedding than the marriage, expectations have grown to unattainable heights. At least they’re unattainable if you’re the one footing the bill. So, in order to achieve more with no more cost, the trend leaned towards having your guests pay to be part of the wedding.
Don’t want to pay for the bridal party’s attire? That’s no problem, actually. Simply don’t require a specific outfit for them to wear in the wedding. Another way to cute costs: pay for a dress, but let them wear shoes they already have. Don’t have them style their hair a specific way. There are plenty of ways to cut costs, if that’s the concern. Remember, though: anything you require should be paid for by you. This extends to the groomsmen’s tuxedos or suits, the flower girl’s dress, the ring bearer’s suit, etc. There is 100%, absolutely NOTHING shameful in having a wedding you can afford. In fact, I think you’ll find people think more of you for doing it.
One common question I had following the Wedding Shower Basics post was over the registry. So, I’m here to clarify today! When sending a wedding shower invitation, there should be 0 reference to the registry on the actual invitation. The invitation is to inform the guests of when and where the shower will be held, as well as RSVP information. As most brides now register, an insert is customarily added to the invitation on a separate piece of paper with the bride’s registry list. One thing I really want to stress: no where is it written that anyone much EVER purchase something from a registry. While many people appreciate a registry for ease of purchase, many others prefer to pick out a sentimental gift for the couple. This is not only perfectly acceptable, but it should be received with the same gratitude as a gift from the registry.
For the givers: Don’t be afraid to purchase a gift not on the registry. Many stores now offer discounts for registered gifts not purchased. It was because of this money-saving trick that my husband and I registered for a TON of diapers when I was expecting. It wasn’t because we thought others would buy these diapers – it was so we could receive a 15% discount! 🙂
On a personal note, one of my all-time favorite wedding gifts I received is a crystal cross that was from extended family on my mom’s side. It’s absolutely beautiful and far from the practical gifts we registered for. Additionally, I would love to see the trend come back for fine china. We have two sets (one is our wedding set, and the other was from eBay), and we use them every Sunday. Even my three-year old knows to be careful and place her napkin on her lap. It’s fun to use and makes any day special.
I hope this post helps to clear up some confusion! Thank you for the question. 🙂 We will continue on the wedding series with addressing wedding invitations. What are some other areas you would like me to hit?
Weddings are an event many spend the entire first part of their life planning in some sort or fashion. In today’s Pinterest age, this is done more easily than ever before. So, it’s a good idea to get prepared for the big day ahead of time. Even if saying “I do” isn’t on your immediate agenda, it is likely you’ll attend weddings for family or friends in the future.
This is an area of etiquette many people eventually become interested in. Even if they could not have cared less before, when they anticipate being front row and center in their own wedding, sudden urges of perfectionism creep out. I’m here to happily help you prepare, etiquette-wise, for what to anticipate.
This post will primarily cover wedding showers. First things first: who hosts the shower? As I mentioned in the Baby Shower post, the hostess should be a friend, not a family member. While it may not be as standard today, it is still assumed that your family will help you out, even if only emotionally, when you get married, so having an immediate family member host a shower makes it appear like you are only asking for gifts. The exception is if your bridesmaids co-host your shower, and your sister is also your bridesmaid. The rule of thumb, though, is that it is friends only. As with any party where you are the guest of honor, you should have a token hostess gift as a thank you for the time and effort (not to mention money) your hostesses made for you. Hostesses: I’ve said it before, but it’s worth saying again…if you are the hostess, no one attending the party should pay anything, other than any co-hostess. Therefore, you are responsible for the bill if you host at a restaurant. Please no “we’ll provide appetizer, meals are on you” type invitations. They make people resent the bride. Host a shower you can afford. If you cannot afford to host, be honest about it. No one should ever make you feel guilty for not being able to host. To anyone who has ever made someone feel guilty for not being able to afford to host: Stop.
Okay, now that that’s settled, let’s cover some “trends” I wish would make their way out (along with the Nae Nae song. I’m over it). Hostesses, PLEASE do not have guests address their own envelopes, which the bride will use to send thank you notes. Everyone knows what you’re doing. A guest book is timeless. Seriously, I’m 29, and I’m getting one for our home My husband doesn’t know this, yet, so ssshhh. A guestbook is also a forever keepsake that she can look back on to remember who attended her shower. Once those cards are mailed, there is no getting those babies back. While we’re on the subject of thank yous, this is an area that is not debated among the EE’s (etiquette experts) of the world: regardless of the “If you say thank you for a gift in person, you do not have to send a thank you note” rule, when it comes to weddings, you do. They are considered a formal affair, even if you plan for your guests to sit on hay bales.
To back up just a bit – you should send the invitation around one month before the shower date, which should be held between two weeks and two months from the actual wedding. Unless it is a work shower or the couple is having a destination wedding with immediate family only, you should only invite those to the shower who are also invited to the wedding.
A fun tradition: When the bride-to-be is opening her gifts, attach the bows and ribbon to a paper plate for her to use as the bouquet for the wedding rehearsal. Many of you may already know of this tradition, but if you don’t, I’d love to see it make a comeback. Also, in the South, we are fairly superstitious. Every ribbon the bride-to-be breaks when opening her gifts means she’ll have one child. That can add up quickly. Don’t ask me how I know.
While people can, per etiquette, send wedding gifts up to one year post-wedding, you should send thank you notes as immediately as possible, at least within one month of receiving said gift.
That’s it for now! I’ll continue with the wedding etiquette soon, venturing towards sitting at the rehearsal dinner, the reception and on!