I love all things monogrammed, from flatware to bed sheets. However, I particularly love a good, Southern monogrammed wedding. Knowing which monogram to use, though, will make or break you in the etiquette world. So, I’m here to give a little guidance.
The rule is that anything before you tie the know (save-the-dates, invitations, “bride” shirt for the day of, a handkerchief to carry during the wedding should have either the bride’s monogram OR the bride and groom’s first initials with an ampersand (&) combining them with the bride’s initials beginning the monogram. For example, my first name is Emily (I’m pretty sure you’ve figured that out), and my husband is Garrett. So, for save-the-dates, we would use “E&G” as the monogram. It’s classy without being assuming.
Once you’ve said, “I do,” feel free to use your new monogram or new combined monogram (with the wife’s initial still leading) as often as you would like from the cocktail napkins to thank yous. Our last name is Glass, so to finish the example, out monogram at our reception would be EGG. Pretend those are the initials used in this monogram.
Alright, now that that’s solved. If you want to use YOUR personal monogram, I’ll give an example for that. My full name is Emily Elizabeth Glass; so my monogram would be EGE. Things that are considered “the wife’s” use the wife’s monogram – napkins, silver/flatware, sheets, towels, etc. Items that would use the husband’s monogram include whiskey glasses, decanters, etc. Truly, it’s pretty limited to alcohol. C’est la vie.
In the spirit of equality (you can’t read humor, but apply it here), I generally use a simple G when monogramming most items. Truthfully, I just like the clean look it gives. So, my napkins have a single G in the corner. That’s my preference, but feel free to apply your own. You’re free to choose. 🙂