Today’s post is brought to you by a reader’s comment from this post. I thought it was such an important topic, and I couldn’t believe I hadn’t already touched on it!
A common trend to escape actually writing thank you notes is for the recipient of a gift to send a group email or send a thank you note to everyone from work/church/etc. This, though, defeats the purpose of the thank you note, which is to express genuine thanks specifically to a person or family. The most people you should include on a thank you note would be everyone who resides in a single home. So, sending one to Uncle John, Aunt Sue and cousins Mark and Maggie is acceptable. Sending one to all 15 members of the IT department is not.
One minor exception would be to send a group email expressing thanks before following up with a hand-written note.
Ideally, a thank you note is physical (not electronic); it is to one person or family; it is handwritten.
The note doesn’t need to be lengthy. Let the giver know how the gift will be used and that it is appreciated. I always suggest adding in that you appreciate that they attended/missed them and one other personal thing in the note.
Thank you for the topic suggestion!
Addressing an envelope is more important than many people believe. For mass-letters, such as an invitation that is pre-printed, it indicates who is invited to said event. For more casual mailings, it indicates to whom the letter is mailed. While a letter is only signed to be from one person (though it is common and acceptable to sign all of your family members’ names), a letter is often address to numerous people. For example, a birthday party invitation (pre-printed) would indicate on the envelope everyone invited.
Even when addressing close family members, it is a best practice to formally address the envelope – i.e. Mr., Mrs., etc. For example: Mr. and Mrs. James Evanson.
For addressing children living at home, their magical age for titles is 10. Boys until age 10 are titled as Master. Girls have no title until age 10, at which time they take the title of Miss.
Children do not require last names in the envelope, unless using titles. The exception is when the child’s last name is different from the parents’ last name.
Here is a big misconception (hopefully) cleared up. If a name is not on the envelope, they are no included. Therefore, if a wedding invitation is address to only the couple and not the children, only the couple is invited.
When addressing an envelope to a married couple who have the same name not using titles, the woman’s name actually comes first. There is an old adage of ‘never separate a man from his name.’ For example: Emily and Garrett Glass. Alternatively with titles is would be Mr. and Mrs. Garrett Glass.
Knowing how to address an envelope can help ensure the intended recipients are included. Bringing back the art of the handwritten letter can also help promote this trick!
Please let me know any questions you may have! As always, thank you for reading!
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Oh my goodness, I am SO excited to announce that I will be selling Cavallini & Co. cards soon! They are beautiful, vintage cards that will help us all get back to the basics of sending snail mail.
Although most EE’s (etiquette experts) now agree that e-mail and e-vites are comparable to their slower counterparts, there is something about receiving a hand-written note that cannot be duplicate
d. The thought and time behind the act cannot be reproduced. Therefore, when this offer presented itself, I decided it was too good to pass up.
BUT! I need your help. Would you prefer more basic, blank cards? Do you like the holiday variety? I’d love to know your preference.
Now, a few fun facts about snail mail. The most formal way to send a letter is stamped and hand-delivered. The theory behind it is it shows the recipient you are willing to pay for the letter to be delivered, but it’s important enough to you to deliver in person. In my opinion, anything delivered electronically should be saved for informal get-togethers and close friends, NOT weddings or other formal events. However, save-the-dates are, overall, considered to be appropriate to be delivered electronically.
As a practice, I tend to send post cards and letters via snail mail for most holidays. Holidays are very important to me, and this is just one way to make them even more special. So, which is your preference for receiving mail – electronically or snail?
Excuse me while I go check the mail…