In general, men’s hats are considered to be outdoor use only. Women’s non-utilitarian hats are considered appropriate for inside use, provided they are in the way of someone’s view (a movie, etc). This past week I witnesses many men wearing their cowboy hats inside (I was in San Antonio). However, here’s a caveat many don’t know about: if there is no room to place the hat, the man or woman may continue to wear it. I overheard conversations about how rude these men were. But we were packed in like sardines, and it would have been truly rude to take up a seat with their hat. Two exceptions to the ‘it’s ok to leave a hat on inside when there’s no room rule.’ One is during the pledge and national anthem. The other is during a prayer. During the pledge and/or national anthem, you may remove the hat and place it over your heart. During a prayer, simply remove it and hold it in front of you.
All of that said, men, IF there is a place (even your knee is fine) to place your hat, please make all efforts to do so. Women, if it’s not part of your outfit, please do the same. However, this is one area we will have to find a little more grace, as hat racks aren’t as prevalent as they once were. Maybe if we bring back hats, though, the racks will follow suit! 😉
This may be a shorter post, as I’m posting from my phone; however after as most of my friends are married or engaged (hence the wedding posts), I have been oblivious to all of the dating faux pas taking place. I was sadly brought back into light after hearing a story of a girl’s terrible date. Now, I want to preface this post with a disclaimer: I’m an advocate for the modern woman. I have no desire to stay at home. I love working. However, I also am not offended by chivalry. If you are, this may not be the post for you.
Regardless of who invites whom on a date, the person being asked is the guest and should be treated as such. In simple terms, they should not pay. They’re being treated. Even married, it makes me feel so special when my husband purposefully asks me out and pays. There are a few other simple etiquette rules that for some reason have gone away. Let’s bring them back! 😉
First and foremost, there are very few reasons to be late for a date. If you are going to be late, even a text is better than them not knowing.
Don’t assume for your date. Let him or her place their own order for dinner (unless this is a ‘thing’ y’all have).
Open their door. It’s part of the feeling special feeling. If it’s a first date, definitely don’t honk to let them know you’ve arrived.
To the one being treated: not per etiquette, but my granny told me to order something I liked from the middle of the menu. I’m pretty sure this is just an old Southern tradition, but it shows your date you aren’t with them for money AND you don’t think they’re broke by ordering the cheapest thing. This one is up for debate, but I snagged the man of my dreams, so I’m sticking to it.
Finally, THANK the person for taking you out and THANK your date for coming with you. Leaves a good last impression. ☺️
Any other etiquette guidelines to improve dates?
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So many bits of information on etiquette I know, I learned from either Mrs. V, the family and consumer science teacher at my high school or my sorority. One hot topic, particularly in college was introductions. Contrary to popular belief, new members (no longer called pledges, apparently) are not hazed and made to feel lower than dirt – at least not in my sorority, though I would honestly assume not in any. You are taught to be a lady and to treat others with respect. Therefore, when a new member is being introduced at the house, it was very vital the introduction went correctly so they knew we valued them. Either that or in today’s sue-happy world, we found the risk wasn’t worth the reward. I’m kidding. Kind of.
So! To make sure you’re not making the dire mistake of essentially insulting someone (truly kidding here….it just can come off as uneducated, not actually insulting unless they really value themselves), I am here to help guide you. For starters, you speak to the “more important person” first. Here’s a general guideline: someone older than you or the person you’re introducing them to, a woman when meeting a man, a person with a title when meeting a person without a title, etc.
Now, the next part used to get a little tricky with varying language from “I’d like to introduce you to” or “I’d like to introduce to you,” and yes, the different was great. the “outsider” is introduced to those in the “circle,” regardless of their status. Status only comes in with the initial name use. However, to simplify things, you can always say “I’d like you to meet.” Although this is not completely interchangeable with the former introduction lines mentioned, it’s considered a safe route by many etiquette experts.
The most important bit to remember is: don’t let the fear of introducing keep you from doing so. We all could stand to make more friends.
That’s it for now! Please let me know your thoughts.
How about a little business etiquette to start off the business week? You should always wear your name tag on your right side. This is because when you shake someone’s hand, the eye is naturally drawn up the arm towards that location. It makes it easier for someone to see your name. Also, ladies and gentlemen alike, a simple firm handshake is appropriate in the USA, regardless of whether the handshake is performed by mixed company. In some countries, the greetings definitely vary, but a weak handshake is not impressive or appropriate. Neither is one that attempts to squeeze the life out of someone via their extremity. (My picture is a mirror image, by the way). Please let me know of any questions you may have!