The Differences In Etiquette Books

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I’m often asked which etiquette book is my favorite. To be 100% honest, most from the 1920s-1950s hit the nail on the head, in my opinion. I love The Amy Vanderbilt Complete Book of Etiquette, 50th Anniversay Edition. This is not the exact one that I have. Mine is much older, but from what I’ve reasearched, a lot of the “older” etiquette remains in this 50th anniversary addition. I feel like Ms. Vandernbilt went into great depth explaining various rules of etiquette. She not only explained the basics – she covered it all.

Another favorite is Emily Post’s Etiquette, 19th Edition: Manners for Today (Emily’s Post’s Etiquette). Now, this is one I’ve really noticed changes in over time. The writers of Emily Post Etiquette have relaxed a lot of the rules, which, being fairly traditional, I don’t love. Overall, though, the bones hold true, and it’s an easily understood etiquette book, which I feel is important. Should etiquette change? Absolutely. I just feel that some of the guidance is a little too casual for certain circumstances and enjoy a sense of formality many seem to miss in the world?

I really enjoy studying how etiquette books have changed and evolved over time. I always teach that etiquette is the culmination of cultural and societal norms. I’ve never seen a more accurate example than that of etiquette books and how they evolve over time. I hope this post helps you find the etiquette book that is best for you! Thank you for reading!

My Favorite Etiquette Books

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I’ve had a few reader questions on which etiquette books are my favorite. In truth, I’m careful recommending etiquette books because, unfortunately, not all actually follow etiquette. Some of the newer ones are more of a “hey, let’s just do whatever we want, regardless of how we come across to others” feel. That is not remotely how I want to come across. However, I do have a couple I tend to lean on more than others, so I wanted to share those with you today. Emily Post’s Etiquette, 19th Edition: Manners for Today (Emily’s Post’s Etiquette) is a good standby. While it isn’t written by Emily Post any longer, as she is deceased, I still turn to it for table settings and other areas of etiquette that don’t fluctuate as much. However, I have found it isn’t as traditional as it once was. If you don’t want to spend $25 on a book, Emily Post’s Etiquette, 18th Edition (Emily Post’s Etiquette) is nearly $10 less. Very little has changed between the two.

Another etiquette expert I really enjoy is Amy Vanderbilt. This book, The Amy Vanderbilt Complete Book of Etiquette, 50th Anniversay Edition, is very user-friendly, and she gose into a little more of upscale situations than Emily Post does.

Regardless, I think you’ll find either book easy to understand and use! Thank you for reading!

Thank Yous and Advertising

This blog has definitely morphed into something beyond basic etiquette – and I’m truly happy it has. Etiquette is a lifestyle, and I want this blog to reflect that. That being said, if you haven’t noticed, I’ve added advertising recently. It’s something I really prayed about before doing because there is nothing I hate more than trying to read an article while being bombarded with ads. So my promise to you is that won’t happen.

I want to be able to support my family with this blog. It is no longer just a little hobby of mine. It’s a full-blown passion, and I love the evenings when I’m able to crank out 5 or 6 blog posts at a time to schedule them for you to read. However, that’s a fair amount of time away from Garrett and the kids. Garrett in particular, since most of the time the kids are in bed by the time I start writing. I have decided that in order to bring you the highest quality content and best classes, I need to work this like a business.

However, my integrity means so much more to me than a quick buck, SO I have strongly limited the advertisers I’ll allow on this blog. For the time being, it’s Amazon, Target and Lenox. Why? Weddings and babies are the most common etiquette themes. I believe in these brands, and I use their products. I will not post a terrible deal or lousy product. In fact, I will not promote something I don’t use myself. This is my promise to you.

I’m eternally grateful for the emails I’ve recently received thanking me for some specials people were able to get good buys on. I’m so happy it helped you out. To me, there’s no point in paying more than you have to. Thank you SO much for your support of me and this business. I appreciate it more than I could ever say.

Thursday Thoughts

I remember as a freshman at Texas A&M University – Commerce, my English professor told us that one day all that will be left to remember you will be your writings. Now, I don’t fully agree with this, but it definitely struck a chord with me. I don’t actually remember a time I haven’t written. I have journals back from when I was in the second grade. I actually have the entry I made from the very first day I laid eyes on Garrett. Who knew then that we’d marry and have a family.

Books have always held a special place in my heart. I’ve fallen in love with characters’ stories and places. Truly, I miss Mitford and get homesick for Harmony and Hogwarts. It will likely come as no surprise that my love extends to etiquette books. I find it completely fascinating to see what’s changed (as well as what hasn’t) with etiquette. The fact that Emily Post is still popular today gives me hope, even if some of the Emily Post Institute’s advice is a little casual for my taste.

In short, I am excited to have an upcoming series on different etiquette books! I think you’ll find it as interesting as I do, and I hope you’ll learn something you’ve never known before in the process.

As always, thank you for reading!