Facebook Live!!

Merry Christmas!! If you are feeling behind in getting your Christmas cards out, take heart! You have until the Epiphany (Jan. 6th) to do so!

Now, for the first part of the changes that are coming!!!!

Tonight I will host the FIRST (of, hopefully, many) Facebook Live video going over introduction etiquette! Sometimes it’s easier to see than read, so I hope this helps!

I want to truly make etiquette for everyone, and I know not everyone can afford to attend one of the classes or you may not be close, physically, to Sulphur Springs.

We will start at 6pm CST. I hope to see you here tonight! I’ll answer questions live and share a book I was recently given. ☺️☺️🙌

Thank you for your support!!

Want to to watch tonight? Here is my Facebook link! https://www.facebook.com/Etiquettebyemily/?ref=bookmarks

 

Business Etiquette Basics

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Today’s etiquette topic is one I’ve gone back and forth with. It was suggested by a good friend and supporter of this blog, so I decided to bite the bullet and just put it all out there. We’re going to talk about business etiquette. Why have I been indecisive on writing this, you ask? Well, in theory this post would be about placing your name badge on your right side, having a firm but not too hard handshake, etc. However, the real lack of business etiquette in today’s world consists of a lack of respect and decorum. Are you noticing a trend on “respect” lately? Hmm….I digress.

To start, I do want to cover some business basics. When you are in a business setting, some of the traditional etiquette functions go by the wayside. In business, men and women are equals, all other things equal. Men would not primarily open doors for their women co-workers. It would simply be whomever got to the door first. Now, I feel the need to add a caveat in here. I live in the South. Many traditions spill over into business, and this is an area that strongly does. If I am approaching a door at the same time a male is, I can guarantee they will beat me to door every time. Though this is definitely not necessary, I appreciate the thought behind it.

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Now, business etiquette for both males and females.

The name tag should, in fact, be placed on your right side. The reasoning: You extend your right arm when greeting someone, and their eye is immediately drawn to that area, making name recognition for them. Also, your handshake should be firm but not hard. This is not a time to show them how strong you are.

The person who has the higher rank extends their hand first, if the two are meeting on their own. Otherwise, the “less important” person is introduced to the “more important” person. Both men and women should stand when meeting someone. However, there is an exception to this rule. If it is a formal business affair, women may remain seated, as it may be physically more difficult to move a chair in a dressy gown. Also, if people are physically unable to stand, of course they remain seated.

Titles, if used, should be used uniformly. You would never say, Jane Smith, may I introduce Mr. John Smith. In business, if you do not know a woman’s marital status, Ms. is perfectly appropriate. Along the lines of titles, you do not use a title of “Doctor” when being used unless you are a medical doctor. The only exception is if you are a Doctor of the area in which you work. So, if your doctoral degree is in English, and you are an English teacher, you may be called “Doctor.” If, however, your degree is in English, and you are in banking, you would not use that title.

I hope these guidelines help you feel more comfortable in your daily business life! I will continue this series with e-mail etiquette, interviewing etiquette and other parts of etiquette that are applicable to business.

Thank you for reading! I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Introductions

So many bits of information on etiquette I know, I learned from either Mrs. V, the family and consumer science teacher at my high school or my sorority. One hot topic, particularly in college was introductions. Contrary to popular belief, new members (no longer called pledges, apparently) are not hazed and made to feel lower than dirt – at least not in my sorority, though I would honestly assume not in any. You are taught to be a lady and to treat others with respect. Therefore, when a new member is being introduced at the house, it was very vital the introduction went correctly so they knew we valued them. Either that or in today’s sue-happy world, we found the risk wasn’t worth the reward. I’m kidding. Kind of.

So! To make sure you’re not making the dire mistake of essentially insulting someone (truly kidding here….it just can come off as uneducated, not actually insulting unless they really value themselves), I am here to help guide you. For starters, you speak to the “more important person” first. Here’s a general guideline: someone older than you or the person you’re introducing them to, a woman when meeting a man, a person with a title when meeting a person without a title, etc.

Now, the next part used to get a little tricky with varying language from “I’d like to introduce you to” or “I’d like to introduce to you,” and yes, the different was great. the “outsider” is introduced to those in the “circle,” regardless of their status. Status only comes in with the initial name use. However, to simplify things, you can always say “I’d like you to meet.” Although this is not completely interchangeable with the former introduction lines mentioned, it’s considered a safe route by many etiquette experts.

The most important bit to remember is: don’t let the fear of introducing keep you from doing so. We all could stand to make more friends.

That’s it for now! Please let me know your thoughts.

Name tag etiquette

How about a little business etiquette to start off the business week? You should always wear your name tag on your right side. This is because when you shake someone’s hand, the eye is naturally drawn up the arm towards that location. It makes it easier for someone to see your name. Also, ladies and gentlemen alike, a simple firm handshake is appropriate in the USA, regardless of whether the handshake is performed by mixed company. In some countries, the greetings definitely vary, but a weak handshake is not impressive or appropriate. Neither is one that attempts to squeeze the life out of someone via their extremity. (My picture is a mirror image, by the way). Please let me know of any questions you may have!image