Why I Still Send Father’s Day Cards

If you’ve read this blog for any period of time, you know that I struggle with thank you notes. In most cases, I send them. However, I’ve had to use various “tricks” to make sure I send the notes in a timely manner. For instance, I actually keep stationary and stamps in my car. For me, this is a must.

Knowing this, it may come as a shock that I find it important to send Father’s Day cards (in addition to other holiday cards). Holidays, though, come naturally to me.

I absolutely love all holidays. Before kids when I still had energy, I would celebrate the most mundane of holidays. Pi Day, National Doughnut Day, Best Friends Day. You name it, we did something to commemorate the occasion. I’ve always joked that it was fitting for my daughter to be born on St. Patrick’s Day, since I love holidays the way that I do.

While I don’t think it’s necessary to spend a certain amount on a cards (a $0.99 card is perfect!), I do think there something incredibly special about sending/receiving letters or cards in the mail. You don’t even have to send a traditional Hallmark card! My kids really enjoy making crafts and pictures to send to their grandparents and friends.

Taking the time to pull away from our cell phones and truly put in a little effort for someone else is rewarding for all parties involved. While it’s great that social media is able to connect people the way it does, the mystery of receiving a letter in the mail cannot be replicated.

I hope you’ll join me this Father’s Day in sending your father/uncle/grandfather/father figure a card via snail mail and let them enjoy that mystery, too!

Happy Father’s Day!

 

A Simple RSVP

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RSVP. Repondez s’il vous plait. Please reply.

‘High society’ adopted French etiquette in the 18th century, leading to the common RSVP on invitations. If an invitation simply states RSVP, you should reply within a day or two of receiving an invitation. This is a primary example of WHY invitations are not to be sent months in advance of an event. In the case of larger events, such as weddings, a ‘save the date’ may be sent.

Commonly now, ‘regrets only’ is on the invitation for less formal events. Personally, I’m not a fan, nor was Emily Post (though the same cannot be said for her granddaughter-in-law, Peggy Post). If this is on the invitation instead of the traditional RSVP, it’s exactly as it seems: you only reply if you are unable to attend.

Do you have any specific RSVP questions? Feel free to ask!

 

 

Addressing Envelopes

imageAddressing an envelope is more important than many people believe. For mass-letters, such as an invitation that is pre-printed, it indicates who is invited to said event. For more casual mailings, it indicates to whom the letter is mailed. While a letter is only signed to be from one person (though it is common and acceptable to sign all of your family members’ names), a letter is often address to numerous people. For example, a birthday party invitation (pre-printed) would indicate on the envelope everyone invited.

Even when addressing close family members, it is  a best practice to formally address the envelope – i.e. Mr., Mrs., etc. For example: Mr. and Mrs. James Evanson.

For addressing children living at home, their magical age for titles is 10. Boys until age 10 are titled as Master. Girls have no title until age 10, at which time they take the title of Miss.

Children do not require last names in the envelope, unless using titles. The exception is when the child’s last name is different from the parents’ last name.

Here is a big misconception (hopefully) cleared up. If a name is not on the envelope, they are no included. Therefore, if a wedding invitation is address to only the couple and not the children, only the couple is invited.

When addressing an envelope to a married couple who have the same name not using titles, the woman’s name actually comes first. There is an old adage of ‘never separate a man from his name.’ For example: Emily  and Garrett Glass. Alternatively with titles is would be Mr. and Mrs. Garrett Glass.

Knowing how to address an envelope can help ensure the intended recipients are included. Bringing back the art of the handwritten letter can also help promote this trick!

Please let me know any questions you may have! As always, thank you for reading!