“Us” In A “Me” World

I feel the need to preface that “me” time is a great thing. While I am naturally more extroverted, my husband is not. It took several years for me to understand that the time alone he craved was nothing against me. It wasn’t that he didn’t enjoy time with me or that he didn’t like being around me. In fact, it had nothing to do with me at all! That revelation was wonderful for our marriage for my own precious “me” time.

How to Balance You and Me

“Me” time is fantastic. What is not fantastic, however, is valuing ourselves completely over everyone else. Like everything, the pendulum tends to swing too far at times. We’re gone from being martyrs to being selfish, and it’s glamorized in the media and magazines. So how can we balance having “me” time to rejunvenate us while remaining mindful that the world doesn’t revolved around us? My favorite tips are listed below!

  1. Keep Committments – Respect someone else’s time, as well as your own, to be dependable enough to keep the committments you’ve made. Etiquette, at its core, is about respect for others. Changing your mind because something better came up or because you’re suddenly longing for a Netflix night isn’t respecting others or respecting yourself. While emergencies are a clear reason why plans may change, changing on a whim isn’t acceptable.
  2. Schedule Alone Time – By purposefully scheduling time that is dedicated to you, you won’t feel deprived when your attention is directed elsewhere. It truly is important that we allow our own cup to be filled – just not at the expense of others.
  3. Know Your Limitations – When you are starting to feel worn down, don’t set yourself and others up for disappointment. Go ahead and say “no.” I’m not sure where the idea of declining an offer was thought to be against etiquette, but let me assure you – it’s not. It’s perfectly acceptable to turn an offer down. There are times you’ll need to. Check out my post on how to gracefully say no here.

As always, thank you for reading! I hope to hear some of your own suggestions in the comment section!

I Versus Me

Today’s post is brought to you by grammar. Now, while I appreciate grammar, I am, in no way, criticizing anyone who doesn’t use it correctly. Rather, I’m showing how it can benefit you when you use it. Too often we see memes that are making fun of people who don’t know the difference between too, to and two. I, personally, don’t use an Oxford comma. It isn’t lack of intelligence that has led us to this post. It’s not knowing. Like etiquette, there is a reason behind most “rules,” and when you know the “why” behind something, you’re more likely to utilize it.

I versus me.

I watch Food Network a lot. Way more than I should. During the last Next Food Network Star, I kept hearing people say “So-and-so and I.” This isn’t inherently wrong. Sometimes you do end with “I.” Sometimes, though, you end with “me.” Saying “I” doesn’t make you sound more intelligent. It makes you sound as if you don’t understand the grammatical rule. So, I’m here to help explain. 🙂

How do you know when to use I or me? Remove the other person and see if it still sounds okay. Quick little test: “This house belongs to Susie and I” OR “This house belongs to Susie and me.” When you remove Susie, the sentences would read, “This house belongs to I” versus “This house belongs to me.” The second option would be the correct one. Yay!

Now let’s try another one. “She and I will go to the store” OR “She and me will go to the store.” Again, removing the other person, the sentences read, “I will go to the store” versus “Me will go to the store.” In this case, you would use “I.”

I hope this little hint helps you! Like etiquette, grammar helps us to be our best.

Thank you to Mrs. Brown for being a truly knowledgeable teacher. You helped us more than you know.

The Importance of Grammar

So, this blog post isn’t really about etiquette OR tradition. It’s about grammar. However, in truth, just like etiquette helps you put your best foot forward, so does correct grammar. This, by no means, implies you have to be perfectly correct every time you speak. I end sentences with prepositions. 😉 To be perfectly honest, my aunt is a very good English teacher, so I’ve been exposed to grammar from an early age. In fact, she taught me to nictitate (wink) before kindergarten. Still, I fall very short of proper grammar all of the time.

A good friend of mine (who blogs at www.kaylaprice.com) had a post recently about etiquette essentially helping us become better people – more civilized, more respectful and so on. There are a few areas of grammar that seem to have gotten away from us.

First, “could care less.” If you could care less, that means you care. The amount you care could be decreased. What most people likely mean when they say they “could care less” is that they “couldn’t care less.” If you couldn’t care less, the amount you care cannot decrease.

Secondly, the pronunciation of mischievous. It’s not mis-CHEE-vee-us. For some reason, the popularity of the wrong pronunciation has increased recently.

Finally, another common mistake I hear is people using “I” always instead of “me.” A hint my middle school English teacher taught us is to remove the other person. You wouldn’t say (or shouldn’t, at least) “This belongs to Sam and I.” Removing Sam, the sentence would read, “This belongs to I.”

I hope this was a helpful post, even if it isn’t specific to etiquette. Just like etiquette will help you in life, I believe grammar will, as well.

As always, thank you for reading!