In honor of #weddingwednesday, I wanted to touch base on married monograms. It’s easy to want to jump the gun and present your married monogram sooner than etiquette dictates; however, it really is best to save it for your wedding day – speaking of monograms, of course. Ahem.
Anytime before “I now pronounce you man and wife” is uttered, you should use your maiden monogram. Once those magic words are said, feel free to flaunt your married monogram! Just a few notes: the wife’s initial is first on about 99.999999999999% of things. In the rare case you are monogramming your beer mugs or anything similar, his initial would do first. Here are a couple of ways to use your married monogram.
Now, what about if there’s a title, as in the case of stamps? Yes, I know what you’re thinking: “What about the rule that you never separate a man from his name?” Well, in this case, the “Mr. and Mrs.” trumps this rule. Thus, if there is a title, his name would go first.
So, to break it down: John Brown and Anna Brown.
You could write Mr. and Mrs. John Brown or Anna and John Brown. Their monogram would be ABJ, with the “B” larger than the other letters.
I’d love to know your thoughts! Do you monogram anything? Why or why not?
My love of all things monogrammed is no secret. However, not only can it become cost-prohibitive to monogram everything, it also isn’t time efficient. Usually having a monogram added to something easily adds 3-5 business days to your order. So, for items you replace frequently, allow me to suggest an embosser.
Oh my goodness, this has been life changing. Instead of waiting extra time and paying extra money to have envelopes, paper hand towels, stationary, etc. personalized, I can do it myself. While there are likely several places you can order an embosser from, allow me to tell you about my experience.
My mom and dad purchased the embosser for me as a Christmas gift from Everything Unique, a local boutique in Sulphur Springs. Here is their facebook link: https://www.facebook.com/Everything-Unique-120093241345289/
Once ordered, it had a certificate where I could go online to pick my style, monogram, etc. I put in the certificate number, and, like magic, it was delivered to my home just like that! Truly, it was that simple. Also, now that I have the embosser, I can get different plates to have a married monogram, our address or anything else that I desire (well, that will fit on something the size of a half-dollar). Here are some examples!
I love that a one-time purchase can add that something special to your stationary. I’m also no longer limited to paper styles of the monogramming company. It definitely has a simple, classy touch. Do you have an embosser? Would you use one? Thanks for reading!
Here’s a quick guide for determining the order for your monogram!
First and foremost: if all of the letters are the same size, it is your initials, not actually a monogram. So, for me, it would be EEG. First initial, middle initial, last initial.
I’m going to keep the font the same size for reading purposes, but I will let you know when the size should change. 🙂
For an individual monogram, Jane Elizabeth Smith’s would be J S E with the S larger.
If Jane is married to Rick, their married monogram would be J S R with the S larger. This is applicable to 99% of all items. If something is considered specifically the husband’s, the monogram would lead with his initial first, so R S J with the S larger.
Here’s an area people tend to jump the gun: before the reception. You should debut your married monogram at the reception, not the wedding. So, wedding invitations should not have your married monogram. Formal invitations actually should not have any monogram on them. By definition, regardless of how you choose to celebrate, a wedding is a formal occasion. Thus, no monogram. However, monogrammed napkins, decor, etc. at the reception is perfectly acceptable. Personally, I love a good monogram. 🙂
Questions? I’d love to hear them!
I love all things monogrammed, from flatware to bed sheets. However, I particularly love a good, Southern monogrammed wedding. Knowing which monogram to use, though, will make or break you in the etiquette world. So, I’m here to give a little guidance.
The rule is that anything before you tie the know (“bride” shirt for the day of or a handkerchief to carry during the wedding) should have the bride’s maiden monogram.
Once you’ve said, “I do,” feel free to use your new monogram or new combined monogram (with the wife’s initial leading) as often as you would like from the cocktail napkins to thank you notes. Our last name is Glass, so to finish the example, our monogram at our reception would be EGG, with the middle G larger than ther outside letters. Pretend those are the initials used in this monogram.
Alright, now that that’s solved. If you want to use YOUR personal monogram, I’ll give an example for that. My full name is Emily Elizabeth Glass; so my monogram would be EGE. I would use this for shirts, a personal mug, etc. Joint household items – napkins, silver/flatware, sheets, towels, etc. – use the couple’s married monogram, with the wife’s initial leading. For Garrett and me, that would be EGG. Again, the middle G would be larger than the outside letters.
Items that would use the married monogram with the husband’s initial leading include whiskey glasses, decanters, etc. Truly, it’s pretty limited to alcohol. C’est la vie.