Y’all. My son is turning four years old. I can barely believe it. As I was looking through Etsy to find an invitation I liked, I kept stumbling across absolutely beautiful bridal and baby shower invitations. However, I noticed a common theme. The registry was written on each and every one of them. I do know that it’s simple and easy. However, I also know that it can look cheap and as though that’s the only reason you’re having a shower.
So, instead of lamenting this problem forever, I decided to take matters into my own hands! Coming soon will be etiquette-approved invitations for all occasions! Bridal, baby, graduation, birthday…you name it! Also, in case you’re wondering, I will have a way to let people know that you are registered without it being the primary focus of the invitation. I’m so excited to bring this to you!
As always, thank you for reading!
Whether it is for a birthday party or a shower, deciding on the best gift can be a difficult task.
For me, personally, I got into a gift rut. I started relying on the same ol’ standbys, not tailoring each gift to a person or occasion. While it is good for me to have a gift stash, it is not something I need to rely on as a one-size-fits-all supply. Simply put, don’t give someone a gift they would neither like nor enjoy just because you have it. I use my gift stockpile as a way to acquire good gifts at a discount. Every time I go to Ross or TJ Maxx and there are cocktail napkins, I get them. What makes a good gift? Ask yourself if it is (1) something you’d like to receive and/or (2) is it something the recipient would like to receive. That’s it. Don’t worry too much about “rules” about what is a proper dinner party gift, etc.
When it comes to registries, the choice is yours on whether or not to go by it. It was, for a time, considered in poor taste to have a registry. Essentially, the registrant is telling people what to get. However, on the flip side of the coin, it can also be seen as one less worry for the gift buyer. I’d recommend looking over the registry. If nothings strikes your interest, get something you think the recipient would love.
One more note about registries: I’ve seen this start to make its way into other areas. Baby registries and wedding registries for a first wedding are both very acceptable now. Let me be the first to warn you, fair or not, wedding registries for subsequent weddings (even if it’s the first wedding for either the groom or bride) are considered crass. Also, please don’t register for housewarming gifts….I don’t even know where to begin on this one. In a nutshell, if people want to get you a gift, they will, regardless of whether or not you register.
Coming up: Gift suggestions for various occasions.
One common question I had following the Wedding Shower Basics post was over the registry. So, I’m here to clarify today! When sending a wedding shower invitation, there should be 0 reference to the registry on the actual invitation. The invitation is to inform the guests of when and where the shower will be held, as well as RSVP information. As most brides now register, an insert is customarily added to the invitation on a separate piece of paper with the bride’s registry list. One thing I really want to stress: no where is it written that anyone much EVER purchase something from a registry. While many people appreciate a registry for ease of purchase, many others prefer to pick out a sentimental gift for the couple. This is not only perfectly acceptable, but it should be received with the same gratitude as a gift from the registry.
For the givers: Don’t be afraid to purchase a gift not on the registry. Many stores now offer discounts for registered gifts not purchased. It was because of this money-saving trick that my husband and I registered for a TON of diapers when I was expecting. It wasn’t because we thought others would buy these diapers – it was so we could receive a 15% discount! 🙂
On a personal note, one of my all-time favorite wedding gifts I received is a crystal cross that was from extended family on my mom’s side. It’s absolutely beautiful and far from the practical gifts we registered for. Additionally, I would love to see the trend come back for fine china. We have two sets (one is our wedding set, and the other was from eBay), and we use them every Sunday. Even my three-year old knows to be careful and place her napkin on her lap. It’s fun to use and makes any day special.
I hope this post helps to clear up some confusion! Thank you for the question. 🙂 We will continue on the wedding series with addressing wedding invitations. What are some other areas you would like me to hit?