Why It’s Important to Accept a Compliment

What is your initial response to someone giving you a sincere compliment? Do you say “thank you” or brush it off? An area of etiquette that many people struggle with is correctly responding to compliments. They have given me every excuse in the book – they feel that saying “thank you” makes them seem egotistical, they disagree with the person, they think the person may be teasing them, etc. The list goes on and on and on.

A little secret to etiquette is to focus more on the other person than yourself. You don’t have to justify why you’re dressed up or wearing make up. You don’t need to give a 20-minute monologue on where you found the top and the spectacular deal you got. Don’t fret over the fact you’re not where you want to be. You just need to say thanks. Genuine thanks.

We’re taught to keep to ourselves and to look out for ourselves. However, I truly believe that we are meant to be with others. We are meant to have relationships of all kinds and learning how to correctly interact with others is a key part of that relationship flourishing.

I encourage you to accept the compliment when someone steps out on a limb to give one instead of dismissing it, essentially dismissing their opinion and thought. It isn’t always easy to get out of your comfort zone and say something kind to a stranger. You are who you’re meant to be.

Mass Thank You Notes

Today’s post is brought to you by a reader’s comment from this post. I thought it was such an important topic, and I couldn’t believe I hadn’t already touched on it!

A common trend to escape actually writing thank you notes is for the recipient of a gift to send a group email or send a thank you note to everyone from work/church/etc. This, though, defeats the purpose of the thank you note, which is to express genuine thanks specifically to a person or family. The most people you should include on a thank you note would be everyone who resides in a single home. So, sending one to Uncle John, Aunt Sue and cousins Mark and Maggie is acceptable. Sending one to all 15 members of the IT department is not.

One minor exception would be to send a group email expressing thanks before following up with a hand-written note.

Ideally, a thank you note is physical (not electronic); it is to one person or family; it is handwritten.

The note doesn’t need to be lengthy. Let the giver know how the gift will be used and that it is appreciated. I always suggest adding in that you appreciate that they attended/missed them and one other personal thing in the note.

Thank you for the topic suggestion!

Thank Yous and Advertising

This blog has definitely morphed into something beyond basic etiquette – and I’m truly happy it has. Etiquette is a lifestyle, and I want this blog to reflect that. That being said, if you haven’t noticed, I’ve added advertising recently. It’s something I really prayed about before doing because there is nothing I hate more than trying to read an article while being bombarded with ads. So my promise to you is that won’t happen.

I want to be able to support my family with this blog. It is no longer just a little hobby of mine. It’s a full-blown passion, and I love the evenings when I’m able to crank out 5 or 6 blog posts at a time to schedule them for you to read. However, that’s a fair amount of time away from Garrett and the kids. Garrett in particular, since most of the time the kids are in bed by the time I start writing. I have decided that in order to bring you the highest quality content and best classes, I need to work this like a business.

However, my integrity means so much more to me than a quick buck, SO I have strongly limited the advertisers I’ll allow on this blog. For the time being, it’s Amazon, Target and Lenox. Why? Weddings and babies are the most common etiquette themes. I believe in these brands, and I use their products. I will not post a terrible deal or lousy product. In fact, I will not promote something I don’t use myself. This is my promise to you.

I’m eternally grateful for the emails I’ve recently received thanking me for some specials people were able to get good buys on. I’m so happy it helped you out. To me, there’s no point in paying more than you have to. Thank you SO much for your support of me and this business. I appreciate it more than I could ever say.

Tea Party Recap

THANK YOU to everyone who attended yesterday’s tea! We had an absolute blast. Tea time is so important, not because I love tea (in truth, I’m more of a coffee girl), but socializing IS important. We’re all too happy to watch other people live their lives (hello, Kardashians) without getting out and living our own.

We glorify being too busy, which is, in short, very sad. Why do we want a “me” world? As an aside, if you haven’t read this blog from my friend, Kayla Price-Mitchell, I encourage you to check it out! I believe we’re meant to be around others and not live completely solo lives. This is why etiquette is so vital. It’s not just about being comfortable and knowing which fork to use. It’s about making others feel comfortable. It’s a more selfless way of living.

Tea time, though no longer common, was how women of upper class socialized with each other regularly in the 1800s through the mid 1950s. We’re all too happy to get together for a good cause, but it is completely okay (and even good) to get together for no other reason than to be around each other.

In a relaxed setting, we are free to be open with ideas, share our concerns with each other, laugh and grow in friendship. It’s a wonderful thing. If you missed out on Sunday’s tea, I plan to have two more before the end of the year! This is my side job, so it is hard to do a tea correctly without going in the hole financially. However, my goal is to bring etiquette back in style. I can’t do that if there aren’t ample opportunities for unique events, such as teas.

Here are a few of the pictures from the tea party! Enjoy!

Lenox Autum china makes the perfect place settings.
Up close with each simple place setting.
An English bone china makes for a beautiful table.
                        It’s tea time!

 

New Look!

I hope y’all like the new look of Etiquette By Emily. 🙂 After finally figuring out how to add the affiliates (BIG thank you to Matt Dunn), I decided that old lay out just didn’t work.

Regarding the affiliates, I promise to ONLY offer affiliate marketing that I feel will be beneficial to you. I’m currently working on approval of my third affiliate. I’m a little anxious about it because I REALLY hope to be approved. This company offers great incentives to anyone registering for a baby shower or wedding shower, and it simply offers great deals to everyone. Personally, I shop here often (probably too often if you asked my husband).

On that note, HAPPY 31st BIRTHDAY to my very sweet, very supportive, wonderfully dependable husband. He has been there for me always, and I know he always will be there for me.

In our little town, yesterday ended my term as mayor (cue cheers). While I enjoyed it immensely, I am also glad to get a little more wiggle room back in our family life. We had gotten into a bad habit of eating too often separately or in front of the tv because our evenings would be too jam-packed with activities. Through it all, though, Garrett was unwavering in his support of me and all I do. I know without a doubt I couldn’t do it without this handsome hubby of mine. Thank you, Gar.

That being said, I’m very excited to having more time for family, this blog and reading. 🙂 If you have any topics you’d like for me to cover, please leave a comment, and I promise it’ll be covered. 🙂 As always, thank you for reading!