Learning To Say “No” Gracefully

No one enjoys being rejected. For me, I hate letting anyone down. I have a tendency to say “yes” to everything. I do truly enjoy volunteering and being involved, but I have always felt the pressure to say “yes.” In fact, someone onced asked my husband if there was anything I didn’t do, to which he replied, “Say no.”

Knowing how to say no gracefully can be tricky, but I think it’s a vital skill to hone. It is a skill you’ll use for the remainder of your days. Something has recently come to my mind that has helped me in learning how and when to say no.

“When we say ‘yes’ to something, we are saying ‘no’ to something else.” – Emily Glass

We are all given a finite amount of time on earth. I’ve often mentioned being good stewards of our money and things. However, being good stewards of our time is even more important. So, when we say “yes” to something, we are saying “no” to something else. What that “something else” is will vary by person.

It may be that we are saying no to more family time. It may be that we’re saying no to more peace. Whatever it is, by realizing that, we are better able to prioritize our time. The desire to say no to the lesser important things grows within us.

So, how can we gracefully say no?

  1. Remember that you never owe anyone an explanation. Simply say that you’re unable to.
  2. If you feel like you need to expand, keep your explanation honest. No one deserves to be lied to.
  3. Thank the person for thinking of you. You must have the trait(s) they’re looking for. It was considerate of them to ask.
  4. Offer an alternative. It might be another person or you may be able to commit to a lesser amount of time.

You are ultimately responsible for your time and will encounter many occasions where you’ll need to know how to say no. I hope today’s post encouraged you! If you have suggestions on other ways to say no gracefully, I’d love to hear it! Thank you for reading!