I know the picture doesn’t go along with the title, as the book is a guide for bridesmaids, but in all honesty, they actually go quite hand-in-hand. I received this book from my mother-in-law as encouragement for this blog. Overall, I really enjoyed the book. There were a couple of modern twists mentioned, though, I wish would fall by the wayside, particularly regarding money.
For a bridesmaid, there will be a lot of costs involved with being in a wedding. If you’re unable to incur these expenses, you should politely decline far enough away from the wedding the bride is able to find a replacement. The costs range from a wedding gift (no, not required, but it is more than polite to get one for the bride and groom) to travel expenses, which can add up quickly if you don’t live in the same town as the bride. However, anything required by the bride beyond travel is on the bride, regardless of she’s actually the one writing the check. In short, the dress, required shoes, any required hair-do is all footed by the bride. This is where I get a little old-timey.
I just believe people should have a wedding they can afford and not expect others to pay for their wedding for them. Traditionally, this is what occurred. However, in keeping with the trend of placing more emphasis on the wedding than the marriage, expectations have grown to unattainable heights. At least they’re unattainable if you’re the one footing the bill. So, in order to achieve more with no more cost, the trend leaned towards having your guests pay to be part of the wedding.
Don’t want to pay for the bridal party’s attire? That’s no problem, actually. Simply don’t require a specific outfit for them to wear in the wedding. Another way to cute costs: pay for a dress, but let them wear shoes they already have. Don’t have them style their hair a specific way. There are plenty of ways to cut costs, if that’s the concern. Remember, though: anything you require should be paid for by you. This extends to the groomsmen’s tuxedos or suits, the flower girl’s dress, the ring bearer’s suit, etc. There is 100%, absolutely NOTHING shameful in having a wedding you can afford. In fact, I think you’ll find people think more of you for doing it.